(c) 2006 By Carla Tara
In this busy age when we’re always pressed for time, people have forgotten what it’s like to touch each other just for the pleasure of it. Even if that opportunity arises, the tendency is to get caught up in the experience of ejaculatory orgasms. Admittedly, ejaculatory orgasm produces intense pleasure, but unless it is built up slowly with conscious touch, it is more like a sneeze in the groin, a release of built up tension, than a deeply satisfying experience that “makes love grow” (love making).
Unfortunately for many people, a sex encounter becomes more a mutual masturbation than a real love building experience.
Tantra invites us to take time to thoroughly touch each other to increase arousal across the entire body. Your conscious touch stirs up energy in the form of weak electronic waves that start flowing, continuing to build up until they become larger waves that encompass the entire body. The pleasure waves increase the flow of happy hormones that help opening up both the heart and the flow of sexual energy.
When I say conscious – I mean that you are not thinking of something else. Your attention is fully on your lover, how they breathe and how they take in your touch. If the receiver holds her or his breath and seems to be into her own thinking you might ask if they would like a softer or stronger, slower or faster touch, depending on how you are touching them when you see them “disconnect” from what is happening.
This question will get their attention back and you will get a chance to give them the touch that they desire. Sometimes we tend to touch how we want to be touched instead of tuning in and seeing how our lover likes it.
Our skin is our biggest organ and needs caring love and attention. But the Tantric touch goes deeper than the skin. When you put your intention together with your breath you can feel all the muscles sucking in that attention, which goes all the way down to the bones. Yes, bones need love and attention, too, and that can be done even without having to use deep tissue massage strokes.
Your intention connected with your breath is very powerful and can deeply penetrate to touch and heal.
People who practice Tantra know that touching a lover does not always have to end in ejaculation. Touch is both sensuous and healing. The most obvious emissaries of love are our arms and the focal points from which love flows are the palms. So when we touch our loved ones we help them heal from any pain or disappointment they might have experienced during the day and feel that life is worth living just to be touched by you.
Many women tell me that they often cringe when their men starts touching them because they know it will end up in intercourse and they might not be in the mood for it. To prevent this from happening, I am inviting men to set up a just touching time with your beloved. And I recommend that even when she gets all excited, you keep your agreement of “just touching” during that time. If you do that several times, you will build up trust that you are keeping your word and she will start being touched with joy anytime you do so.
And I promise you that both of you will have an incredibly great time touching and making love.
Yours in Tantra,
Carla Tara
“Copyright (c) 2006 by Carla Tara All Rights Reserved”
About the Author, Carla Tara
Carla Tara has been teaching Tantra and sex coaching in Europe and all over the United States. She uses all the powerful Tantric Techniques to open up blocks to the ecstatic energy flow in a safe and sensual environment. She combines Tantra with relationship and longevity counseling and a life coaching. Carla has studied with Eastern masters Gurudev Shri Chitrabhanu, Dr. Ramamurti S. Mishra and Dr. Pandit Raimani Tugunait, as well as with Western teachers Lori Grace, Margo Anand and Charles Muir. For more information visithttp://www.1tantra.com or email Carla@1tantra.com.
