Question: My partner and I have mindblowing sex every single time we are intimate but he cannot seem to cum off of oral sex, he said that he has never came from oral sex. I am so determined to change this. I do everything you can think of and he enjoys it but never climaxes. what can i do ?
Answer: The first thing that I would suggest is to stop making his ejaculation a goal. For men, worrying about such things as not ejaculating or losing their erections is only counterproductive. Many men have difficulty reaching orgasm through oral sex because of the pressure that they have become used to through masturbation or a tight vagina. It is possible to learn techniques that are a combination of manual and oral stimulation that may make it easier to bring him to an ejaculatory orgasm. The other approach would be for him to expand his concept of orgasm so that he can have multiple orgasms with or without ejaculation.
Specifically, I would suggest your partner purchasing a copy of our Male Multiple Orgasm CD. Also, our videos The Lover’s Guide to Advanced Sexual Techniques and the Lover’s Guide to Sexual Ecstasy, both have excellent sections on oral sex.
- Doctor G
