Really both apply in relationships. The opposite part that attracts is the polarity between male and female. It’s not just the gender difference it’s the maleness and femaleness of each of the partners. Without that masculine and feminine energy difference there is no chemistry.
The chemistry is the sexual energy that creates the lusty passion in a relationship. This is an extremely important factor in maintaining the vitality of a loving relationship. If both partners have masculine sexual energy, then you have buddies. If both have feminine sexual energy – girlfriends.
We are all born with a mixture of both masculine and feminine sexual energy. For men the base level of masculine or feminine energy can be determined by the level of enzyme production he gets during gestation. Once the chromosome shifts to XY, if the mother does not secrete certain enzymes at the right times the boy will not have as many masculine traits as some others. There is still a lot of research in progress in this area.
Your sexual energy can vary during the day depending on what you are doing and who you are with. As a man, I can have very high feminine sexual energy when I am with my children. When I am competing or doing business, I have very strong masculine sexual energy. Sometimes with my beloved in the bedroom, I can be very feminine and let her give to me. I would say that I am in a masculine energy state between 80 and 90 per cent of the time.
What about women in the workplace? They have to be in a masculine energy state or they will get eaten by the masculine energy sharks out there. The challenge is when they come home to be with their beloved or family. It takes some kind of transition to get a woman out of the masculine energy from the workplace into the feminine energy of hearth and home. This is especially true when it comes to making love. If she is in a masculine space and he is in a masculine space and they want to make love, something has to happen to shift her into her feminine space before any chemistry can occur.
A good way of shifting her into a strong feminine space is a bubble bath or a massage or both. She can also do something more feminine such as working in the garden, shopping for feminine things, or some artistic expression that will get her into the feminine flow. If the man is in a feminine state and she is in a masculine state – party on. The key is having the opposite sexual energy like poles on a magnet attracting and creating that lusty passion.
So what happened to like attracts like. Isn’t the Law of Attraction the most powerful law in the universe? It is and here is how it applies. When you attract someone some one into your life, you attract them on the same vibratory level that you are vibrating at. Than means that they will most likely be about the same educational level, the same socio-economic level, and have similar cultural tastes and preferences. There are exceptions but they are not the rule. Often what looks like a big disparity is a good match on levels that we cannot easily observe. If we choose a partner that is too dissimilar it often complicates the partnership and creates insurmountable problems.
The challenge occurs when meeting someone in a new relationship and the chemistry is very high and the sex is fantastic. What happens when we have great sex is a very strong production of oxytocin which is the hormone that bonds us together. If one is not careful at this stage then bonds become very strong and are more difficult to break when it is revealed that the one we are enthralled with is not a good match for us at all. Happens a lot. It’s not the end of the world but it does require some possibly painful unbonding.
The key is not to avoid sexual contact completely, just choose carefully and try not to let the chemistry overwhelm you. Having a coach or some support system to bounce thing off really helps deflect some potential disasters and perhaps can also connect you with some one who might merit a second look. Doing it alone is always more difficult.
About the Author
For the last twenty-five years Frank Wiegers has studied with masters from all over the world. He has experimented with many forms of relationship and many different sexual practices, all the while looking for the spiritual aspects of both. As a seventy year old, he has more virility and vitality than he had as a much younger man. How is this possible? Because he has studied and lived the principles and technology he teaches.
Frank has been married twice and has three children by his first marriage. Each of those marriages brought him lessons that enabled him to find his way to this path. His relationships embody all the principles and practices he teaches. The ecstasy/energy from this relationship now overflows into every area of his life. Frank wants to pass this on to as many people as he through coaching, teaching seminars and his forthcoming book SECRETS OF SEXUAL ECSTASY.
Along the way, Frank collected degrees in Business, Engineering and Law and has worked in each of those arenas. He has attended many seminars and workshops and is a Religious Science Practitioner (spiritual counselor). He also flew jet fighters in combat, raced Formula cars in Europe, wrote one novel, four screenplays, did film and video production, and currently races sailboats.
It is truly Frank’s passion to help people reach beyond what they thought was realistic or possible. For more information on this remarkable man and the services he offers in Los Angeles, you can visit his website athttp://www.ConsciousLover.com/.