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The Extended Quodoushka Experience
Imagine that sex is natural, sacred and beautiful…

Experience how the gift of your sexuality is your most powerful resource for full self expression, health, hope, happiness, harmony and humor.

Some Special Features of this Extended Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Hawaii Workshop for singles and Couples

Imagine experiencing the Quodoushka teachings in the sensual paradise of Maui, with it’s warm tropical evenings filled with the aroma of plumeria, pristine whiste-sand beaches and sparkling waterfalls. To nourish our bodies, minds and spirits, let Maui, which is sometimes called the “Magical Isle”, delight your senses as we venture to sacred places during our Extende Quodoushka Journey.

The focus of the first level of Quodoushka is about your individual sexual self. It’s a reclaiming of your personal energy and a Rite of Passage into a more natural, empowered way of appreciating your sexuality. Through the wisdom of these ancient teachings, you will gain an understanding of what keeps you from fully enjoying the intimacy, sex and love you deserve. The
‘Q’ experience will not only enhance your sex life; it will bring tremendous vitality and joy into your relationships, friendships, career and family.

The Quodoushka instructors and support team create an amazing intimate environment where you will be guided through a variety of experiences to deepen your understanding of sex and intimacy.

You can attend as a single, or if you come with a partner, you can enjoy the weekend exploring together. Either way, you will learn more about yourself as a spiritual sexual being than you have ever felt in your life. Quodoushka helps you expand and accept your sexuality as healthy, natural and good. The Quodoushka workshop is not only practical and profound, those who attend agree; it’s also a great deal of fun!

For more information contact Mary Andrews at marvelousmary449@gmail.com
808 874 9504

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 Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshop Comes to Maui 10/24 10/28/2013

 Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshop Comes to Maui 10/24 10/28/2013

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Sexperience

by DoctorG on October 3, 2012

 Sexperience

Sexperience from Channel 4 in the UK provides sex advice based on people’s real experiences with questions and answers about better sex, virginity, pregnancy, STIs, contraception and more.

It’s openness and honesty are very refreshing and I only wish there were more of this kind of universal, age appropriate universal sex education.

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freedom nov 2013 335x146 Freedom of the Seas November 10   17, 2013   Jamaican Full Ship Adult Couples Charter

November 10 – 17, 2013

Itinerary: 8 Days and 7 Nights Leaving from the Port of Cape Canaveral on Freedom of the Seas with stops in Labadee, Falmouth (Jamaica) and Cozumel before returning to Port of Cape Canaveral.
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The Freedom of the Seas is the largest Lifestyle Charter in history! With over 3,800 people on one of the three largest ships in the world, this will be a week-long party at sea that you will never forget.

The itinerary of Labadee, Jamaica and Cozumel is one of the best group of ports with some of the best custom excursions you will ever find. From spectacular clothing optional diving, snorkeling and beach parties, to a private island where we will have the entire island (Labadee) to ourselves, there are many exotic and erotic adventures for you.

Of course, our favorite time is on board the ship. The Freedom of the Seas has so many different venues and places to party, you will have lots of choices when it comes to music and activities. Every night is a theme night, so count on being sexy and meeting other sexy couples from all around the world on this historic Party at Sea.

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Gary Schubach, Ed.D., A.C.S. – Comprehensive Exam Question Response

Discuss the pros and cons of working
with a “surrogate” in sex therapy.

          To begin with, it is necessary to define terms.  A sex surrogate is someone, male or female, who serves as a sex partner to the client as part of a sex therapy team that includes the client and the therapist.  The surrogate’s purpose is to teach and aid a client with no partner to work with, to achieve emotional and physical intimacy by using experiential exercises designed to build those skills.  This can involve exercises in the areas of social skill training, communication, relaxation techniques and sensual and sexual touching.  It also may involve, when appropriate, genital-genital contact but that is a minor portion of the total time spent in the process and usually takes place close to the end of the process after the necessary interpersonal and body sensitivity lessons are learned.

The qualities that are important in sex surrogates would include warmth, caring, empathy, comfort with their own sexuality and body, good interpersonal communication skills, and trustworthiness.  It is also important that they have  nonjudgmental attitudes towards choice of lifestyle, sexual activity  and sexual partners.  It is essential that they be emotionally mature and able to effectively cope with intimate situations.

So under what conditions would the use of a sex surrogate be appropriate?  Until about 1970, the treatment of sexual dysfunctions usually involved the traditional model of a therapist working one on one with a client in an attempt to understand the deep-seated psychological roots of the problem and to resolve them through verbal therapy.  Then came new viewpoints by such people as Masters and Johnson, Helen Singer Kaplan and Hartman and Fithian suggesting that in addition to a psychological causation, it was also possible that there was an educational deficit that might be addressed in a focused sort of way.  Many people simply did not possess the interpersonal communication and tactile skills necessary to create an environment where they would feel relaxed and comfortable enough to enjoy sex without the anxiety that can cause dysfunction.  New approaches were developed that saw sexual dysfunction not as a “problem” of one partner or the other in a relationship but as a joint relationship issue to be addressed by both partners.  Intensive strategies were developed to re-educate both partners as to normal sexual function, communications and relaxation techniques.  Sensate focus exercises were developed.  In these exercises, according to Masters and Johnson, “The purpose of the touching is not to be sexual but to establish an awareness of touch sensations by noticing textures, contours, temperatures, and contrasts (while doing the touching) or to simply be aware of the sensations of being touched by their partner.  The person doing the touching is told to do so on the basis of what interests them, not on any guesses about what their partner likes or doesn’t like.”

The problem is that these promising therapies were designed for couples, and really need to be done with a partner.  What about cases where there is no partner or if there is a partner, he or she are unwilling to participate?  It was in response to this question that the role of sex surrogate was conceived.

Outcome statistics for this type of therapy, utilizing a surrogate, have not really been kept and its popularity has faded some since its inception in the 1970’s.  A more sexually repressive period has brought out concerns by therapists about the confusion of surrogacy with prostitution, as well as the fears of therapist liability in a litigious environment.  Concerns about AIDS and other STD’s are an additional factor.  Also, while a trained surrogate knows how to deal with transference issues, there is always the possibility that the client will become emotionally attached to the sex surrogate which can create problems for the client, the therapist, and the sex surrogate.

However, I have had experience with this type of therapy and I clearly believe in its effectiveness if used with the appropriate client.  My experience has been that the client must not have too many deep-seated anxieties around sex so that it is impossible to surrender to the exercises and the process.     However, before I would even make a referral to a sex surrogate, it is important that I would have already established rapport and a sense of trust with the client.  Also, I would have already introduced the client to relaxation techniques that might include self-hypnosis, breathing exercise and guided imagery.  If the client is resistant to these exercises, then they are probably not a good candidate for the type of sex therapy that would involve using a surrogate.

The client that I would find appropriate for this type of therapy would be one who is open, willing and even eager to learn new skills and to have a joyful and loving sex life.  For that person, sex therapy utilizing a surrogate can be a rewarding and enriching experience.

©1997 by Gary Schubach, Ed.D., A.C.S.

http://www.DoctorG.com

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Surrogate sex partner inspires story, film

January 29, 2012

I know Cheryl Cohen and I couldn’t be more delighted that her work has inspired a movie. Surrogates, working with a qualified therapist/coach, can be very effective in helping people with most common sexual issues. I look forward to seeing this film and reviewing it. – Gary Schubach Surrogate sex partner inspires story, film www.sfgate.com […]

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The Surrogate: Sundance Film Review

January 29, 2012

I found this review of The Surrogate. Now I really want to see the film. – Gary Schubach, Ed.D., A.C.S. The Surrogate: Sundance Film Review John Hawkes stars in a surprisingly accessible drama about an adult trying to lose his virginity while confined to an iron lung.

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Interview with John Hawkes, star of Sundance Hit Film, “The Surrogate”

January 28, 2012

John Hawkes on Sundance Hit <i>The Surrogate</i>: Challenging Role Hurt, But It Was Worth It www.movieline.com Ben Lewin’s The Surrogate emerged as the undisputed hit of Sundance 2012, landing the biggest sale thus far (a $6 million sale to Fox Searchlight) with the unlikeliest of subjects: A paralyzed ma…

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On Seeing a Sex Surrogate By Mark O’Brien

January 28, 2012

DoctorG.com is proud to reprint  the original essay by Mark O’Brien that it is the inspiration for the new film, The Surrogate, starring Helen Hunt as the sex surrogate and John Hawkes as O’Brien.  It is my hope that this film will raise the public’s awareness of the function and value of sex surrogates in […]

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Video Review David Deida’s Spirit – Sex – Love

September 27, 2011

by Dr. Gary Schubach As one of my teachers reminded me long ago, there is very little new thought, only improvements in the way that ideas are presented. In the case of David Deida’s video, Spirit – Sex – Love, I can recognize clear influences in his material from other disciplines and teachers. Yet it is his […]

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The Nine P’s of Great Cunnilingus

September 23, 2011

By Suzi Bite Copyright 1991 Utopia Publications There is a natural tendency for people to assume that whatever their own attitudes are, others must feel the same way. You socialize with people with whom you share values and beliefs and thus you project that the rest of the world is a mirror of your own […]

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A Satisfying Sex Life is Your Birthright!

September 23, 2011

Available as a team or individually, we work with couples and singles, providing a personal, safe, non-judgmental and fun environment of discovery and education. In our experience, most sexual difficulties arise, not because of physical or psychological problems, but from lack of education in the area of sexual expression. So how we work has a […]

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Romantic Travel Reviews and Recommendations

September 21, 2011

Las Vegas ZUMANITY™ ANOTHER SIDE OF CIRQUE DU SOLEIL™ AT NEW YORK-NEW YORK HOTEL & CASINO From ANOTHER SIDE OF CIRQUE DU SOLEIL comes ZUMANITY, the provocative and challenging new production at New York-New York Hotel & Casino. ZUMANITY bears all the characteristics of a classic Cirque du Soleil® production —movement, music, color, acrobatics, dance — […]

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THE ART OF SEX COACHING: EXPANDING YOUR PRACTICE

September 21, 2011

By Patti Britton The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice This is the essential resource for professionals seeking sex-positive approaches for their clients. Britton shows therapists and counselors how to move their practices fully into sex coaching or simply integrate sex coaching techniques for encouraging sexual self-understanding, growth, and pleasure into their existing therapeutic […]

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Workshops and Seminars

September 21, 2011

Doctor G has long believed in the value of structured learning experiences such as workshops and seminars. When well presented, workshops and seminars can give participants an opportunity to learn new social and sexual skills in a safe and controlled environment while drawing on the experiences of other participants as well as the knowledge of […]

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Romantic Travel Recommendations

March 21, 2011

Every couple can benefit from setting special times aside. With two income families and/or children at home, the ability to get away for a sensual holiday, whether it be for a night, a weekend, or longer, can greatly enhance a couple’s sensual relationship. This becomes even more important as time goes by and people have […]

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