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15 Crazy Things About Vaginas

by DoctorG on March 23, 2012

Do you know these 15 crazy facts about vaginas? They come from the book, What’s Up Down There?: Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend [WHATS UP DOWN THERE] [Paperback]. By Lissa Rankin, M.D….

1. Pubic hair is not just a biological accident that forces us to the waxing salon. It serves three critical functions. First, it protects the delicate vagina. Second, it serves as a reproductive billboard to alert potential mates that you are biologically (if not emotionally) prepared to procreate. And last, it’s a pheromone carpet and traps the scents that lead potential mates to the promised land. So you might think twice before you shave it all off. It’s there for a reason. Embrace it.

2. There are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris, dedicated exclusively to female pleasure. The penis only has 4000. Who says God didn’t take care of us girls?

3. The average vagina is 3-4 inches long, but fear not if your guy is hung like a horse. The vagina can expand by 200% when sexually aroused, kind of like a balloon. Remember, the vagina was made to birth babies, so it’s exceedingly elastic. If you have pain when getting it on with someone large, you can use dilators to help stretch the vagina so you can accommodate the whole package.

4. The vagina doesn’t connect to the lung. While the vagina can expand, it’s not an open conduit to the abdominal cavity. While microscopic sperm can swim through a tiny hole in the cervix, a tampon simply won’t fit. So if you lose something in there, don’t worry. Reach in all the way and pull it out. Do not — I repeat, do not — go hunting for whatever you’ve lost with a pair of pliers. Think of your vagina as being like a sock. If you lose a banana in a sock…it stays in the sock.

5. Yes, it’s true — your vagina can fall out. Not to belabor the sock metaphor, but it can turn inside out just like a worn out sweat sock and hang between your legs as you get older. But don’t fret; this condition — called pelvic prolapse — can be fixed.

6. Vaginas have something in common with sharks. Both contain squalene, a substance that exists in both shark livers and natural vaginal lubricant. (Cue music: “She’s a maneater…”)

7 You can catch sexually transmitted diseases even if you use a condom. Sorry to break it to you, but the skin of the vulva can still touch infectious skin of the scrotum — and BAM! Warts. Herpes. Molluscum contagiosum. Pubic lice. So pick your partners carefully.

8. The average length of the labia minora is less than ¾ inch long (yes, someone got out a ruler and measured 2981 women). Only 1.8% of women have labia longer than 1 ½ inches. But remember, every vulva is different and special. Some lips hang down. Some are tucked up neatly inside. Some are long. Some are short. Some are even. Some aren’t. All are beautiful. You’re perfect just the way you are.

9. While hair on your head can live up to seven years, pubic hair has a life expectancy of about three weeks, which is why it only grows so long. So don’t worry if you opt not to groom your pubes — you won’t need to braid them any time soon.

10. The word “vagina” comes from the Latin root meaning “sheath for a sword,” which may explain why some women simply hate the word. So if you don’t like the word “vagina,” pick your own name for your girly parts. Just call it something and don’t be afraid to talk about it.

11. Only about 30% of women have orgasms from intercourse alone. The clitoris is where the action is. Most women who do orgasm during sex have figured out how to hit their sweet spot, either from positioning or from direct stimulation of the clitoris with fingers.

12. Increasing evidence suggests that the G spot feels good because it lies right over a deep part of the clitoris. Although experts describe the G spot as being inside the vagina on the anterior wall, just under the urethra, the crura of the clitoris actually runs right there. And a recent study demonstrated that vaginal orgasms may actually be deep clitoral orgasms. But who cares? An orgasm is an orgasm. Appreciate it, regardless of where it comes from.

13. Vaginal farts (some call them “queefs” or “varts”) happen to almost all women at one time or another, especially during sex or other forms of exercise. So don’t be embarrassed if your hooha lets out a toot. You’re perfectly normal.

14. Some women do ejaculate during orgasm, but you’re normal if you don’t. The controversial “female ejaculation” most likely represents two different phenomena. If it’s a small amount of milky fluid, it likely comes from the paraurethral glands inside the urethra. If it’s a cup, it’s probably pee. Many times, it may be a little bit of both. But don’t stress out about peeing on yourself. Put a towel under you and surrender to the experience.

15.Safe sex (or even just orgasm alone) is good for you. Benefits include lowering your risk of heart disease and stroke, reducing your risk of breast cancer, bolstering your immune system, helping you sleep, making you appear more youthful, improving your fitness, regulating menstrual cycles, relieving menstrual cramps, helping with chronic pain, reducing the risk of depression, lowering stress levels, and improving self esteem. So go at it, girlfriends!

 Abridged from: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/owning-pink/201104/15-crazy-things-about-vaginas

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Ten Secrets to Satisfying Sex for Men

by DoctorG on September 23, 2011

by Ed Fell

Whether single or coupled, or whatever your relationship path is, these tips will almost guarantee more satisfaction in your sex life.
  1. GROW UP To be a master lover, first become a masterful man. Work on yourself and don’t indulge in petty excuses or complaints. Live your life with purpose. If you don’t know what it is, find it, then live it with gusto. Live with integrity. Be a clear communicator. Learn to be vulnerable.
  2. BE ENTERTAINING One of the biggest complaints I hear from partners is that men are boring. Conversations are boring, lives are boring, dates are boring, and sex is boring. One of the keys to becoming interesting is to become interested and passionate about what you do. Get fed up with your own boring life and do something extraordinary. Create a life where you have something interesting to talk about. Nurture your own adventurous spirit both inside and outside the bedroom. Take courses, read great books, travel, do something outrageous that you’ve never done before.
  3. GROW SOME BALLS Get over your need for approval and affirmation from your partner. There are some things as a man you must do for himself. Men are attractive when they are confident; insecurity is destructive to relationships. Be confident in your touch, your words, and your actions.
  4. GET IN SHAPE Take care of your body. Exercise and eat well. This will add years to your life and your love life. It is a fallacy that men can’t be fully sexually active throughout their lifetime. Do you want to have strong erections through your 60s, 70s, 80s, and, yes, your 90s? Forget the Viagra and get to the gym. Your fitness is the most important factor in maintaining your libido and erections.
  5. LEARN Explore how to read your body and your partner’s. Mastering sex is a path of learning to run and exchange energy. This can be learned from good and ethical teachers and coaches. Don’t bother trying to learn from porn movies. They have almost no value when it comes to being a great lover. Tantra and Taoist practices have been around for thousands of years and offer exceptional tools for mastering and harnessing sexual energy. There is help for low libido, erectile dysfunctions, premature or early ejaculation, and more.
  6. PLAY What is about men that takes sex so seriously? Lighten up! Laugh, tickle, play, and make sex and intimacy fun. There is no ceiling to how much joy the body can experience. We limit our pleasure from our own self-imposed beliefs.
  7. BECOME EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT There are more emotions to master other than horniness, anger, and hunger. When your partner asks how you feel, take a moment to find the answer. Discover your rich inner world of feelings and learn to speak of them with emotional intelligence. An open heart is the biggest aphrodisiac. Don’t be embarrassed to seek the help of a coach or therapist.
  8. BE CURIOUS Express authentic desire to know your partner. Be curious about her life without trying to change or fix her. Hold space for his fears, successes, struggles, and even his challenges or criticisms of you. Do this without getting defensive. Remember: listening is twice as important as talking.
  9. PRESENCE Your greatest offering to your partner is presence. Lose the distractions of TV, sports, porn, and other bleeders of energy and really show up at full attention. Presence is a muscle that will get stronger with practice.
  10. APPRECIATION Court your lover, no matter how long you’ve been together. Compliment your partner. Appreciate your life and live with gratitude. Cherish each moment.

The truth about men is that we are more magnificent than we realize. For many of us, greatness lies dormant, waiting to be uncovered. Each of us holds wisdom, presence, authentic power, generosity, consciousness, passion, creativity, vulnerability, big love, and much, much more.

About Ed Fell

Ed Fell, M.S. lives and loves passionately on Maui. He is a psychotherapist and intimacy/sex/love coach for men, women, and couples. Ed is a Certified Leader and Leader Trainer with the Mankind Project International. He’s guided men, women and couples to their masterful selves for decades. His 30 day couples’ make-over takes intimates to inspiring levels of intimacy. E-visit him at LoversCodes.com or his eponymous website.

 

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The Eye-Opening “O Tapes”

by DoctorG on September 20, 2011

by Gary Schubach, Ed.D.

DVD cover graphic - The O Tapes Movie

Imagine, if you will, a hard-hitting, no holds barred, in-your-face documentary on the most taboo subject in contemporary society. Now imagine, if you can, making that film so skillfully and so thoughtfully that the end product is a breathtakingly beautiful work of art, and you will have some idea of what to expect from The O Tapes, a RoseWorks film. The sheer beauty of this film is almost distracting, and, in this case, that beauty goes clear to the bone. From its elegant simplicity, to the thoughtfulness of the questions, to the presentation of the women, to the supportive environment they were obviously able to create, this is a work of genius.

For example, instead of just filming a bunch of women answering questions, as most documentary makers would, the makers of this film had the wisdom and the sensitivity to present the women they interviewed at their very best. It’s almost like the women are sitting for formal portraits by one of the world’s top photographers, and we are eavesdropping on private conversations between the two of them. One can even imagine a top-notch portrait photographer asking such questions en route to getting some truly outstanding shots.

Fortunately, the content of The O Tapes is just as outstanding as the production values. Instead of trying to force all women into the same mold, as so many attempts to understand women have done, this film seems to celebrate the diversity of women. This variety is not only apparent in the racial diversity of the women interviewed, it is equally diverse in the women’s reactions and opinions. For example, in the section on the importance of penis size, opinions varied all the way from “very important” to “not a factor,” leaving viewers with the entirely correct notion that there is no “right answer” to the question of whether penis size is important.

To me, the most outstanding part of this outstanding film was the section on “faking it.” I remember thinking when the name of the section came up that, if there was going to be any bull in this film, it would surely be found here. Not only did these women have the courage and candor to admit they had faked orgasm, most expressed no hesitation to do so again in the future if conditions warranted. Faking orgasm was finally and correctly identified as the loving act of a woman who cares about her partner too much to ever let him think he failed as her lover. I think an awful lot of men are going to see this film and realize that it is unrealistic to think their women are not faking orgasm, at least occasionally, and that the only way to eliminate the need for such faking is for the woman to know that it really is okay if she doesn’t have an orgasm every time.

My highly respected film professor used to say that any critique of a piece of work should have something that is either lacking or doesn’t work perfectly. So, if there is anything that could be construed as criticism, it would be that there is so much content in the film that I hope that this filmmaker will make other films focusing on the subjects raised in The O Tapes.

This is a film you will want to have in your library because you will want to see it more than once. The second time you see it you will be amazed by how much you failed to notice the first time through, and the third time only slightly less so. There is so much content packed into this beautiful 90-minute film that you could probably watch it ten times and still not have gotten it all. Every time you play it, it will refresh your soul.

 

The O Tapes Movie
The O Tapes

How’s your sex life? . . . Don’t Ask? Well, The O Tapes did!

THERE’S SOMETHING MISSING FROM POLITE CONVERSATION.

 

THE CHAPTERS:

  1. Everything Starts Somewhere
  2. Hysteria
  3. Learning
  4. Masturbation
  5. Good Girl vs. Bad Girl
  6. The First Time
  7. The Big O
  8. The Clitoris
  9. Penetration
  10. Clitoral vs. Vagina
  11. F.S.D.
  12. Penis Size
  13. In the Bedroom
  14. When Nothing Happens
  15. Ida Craddock
  16. Oral
  17. Margaret Sanger
  18. Positions
  19. The G Spot
  20. Female Ejaculation
  21. Toys & Porn
  22. Kinky
  23. Faking It
  24. The Trouble with Men
  25. Self Image
  26. Climax

 

It started with some surprising statistics on orgasm in American women

• Today 43% of those American women are either non-orgasmic or will be non-orgasmic for some significant period in their lives.

• 38% of thousands of women responding to a recent nationwide survey reported that they have never experienced an orgasm through intercourse.

…that led to some important questions on female sexuality.

Question: How is it possible so little is known about female orgasm? Can these numbers be accurate?

Answer: Reported orgasm statistics are accurate … perhaps even a little low.

Question: Where is science of sexuality and the medical profession in all of this?

Answer: For generations science and the medical profession have ‘back-burnered’ female sexuality issues. Knowledge and research on orgasm is now effectively 20-30 years behind comparable sexuality work being conducted for men.

Question: Why aren’t more people aware of this? Is female orgasm unimportant?

Answer: There are some things…we don’t talk about. Orgasm in American women is one.

… that led to experts in the field of female sexuality

• “We have created an environment where there is almost a conspiracy of silence when it comes to sexuality” David Satcher, Surgeon General

• “In spite of the enormous pervasiveness of sexuality in our society and in the media, most women today simply do not have the information they need to have a satisfying sex life. We need to get these things out in the open!” Dr, Beverly Whipple, sex therapist research scientist, author of “The G Spot”

• “We’ve all heard the experts. There is way too little information from ‘real people’ about sexuality.” Lonnie Barbach, psychologist, sex therapist, Television & Radio personality, best-selling author of “For Yourself”

The remarkable women of The O Tapes Movie and experts in Female Sexuality agree:
It’s time to start talking about Orgasm in American women

images from The O Tapes Movie

… that led to 50 remarkable American women.

• From 16 to 84 years of age

• Of all ethnicities and from all walks of life.

• Heterosexual, lesbian, married, single, menopausal, seniors, etc.

• Real women talking about something… we don’t talk about – orgasm & sexuality

You’ve probably heard this one:

Question: What does it take to make a woman orgasm?

Answer: Who cares?! The women of ‘The O Tapes’ care.

Real Women. Talking about things… we don’t talk about. Sexuality & female orgasm.

‘The O Tapes’: an intimate experience in entertainment.

 

 

 

AUDIENCES & EXPERTS PRAISE The O Tapes

“The O Tapes shed a delightfully revealing light on a most important and misunderstood subject: women’s sexual pleasure. . . . Watch this and be ready to be moved.”- Candida Royalle, Erotic film-producer and author of “How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do”

“This is a way of educating women throughout the world (and I hope this goes throughout the world) to learn to feel good about whatever it is that gives them sexual pleasure and satisfaction.” – Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., RN, Author of The G Spot

“There is way too little good information from real people about sexuality. I mean we’ve heard all the experts, but it’s very different to hear ordinary women talking about their sexuality, and each one of them talks about what she likes and what she doesn’t like. It’s a liberating experience. It gives each of us permission to be who we are.” – Lonnie Barbach, Psychologist, Sex Therapist, Author

Everyone should see this movie. That is, everyone old enough to be interested in sex.” – Russell Alexander, San Francisco, CA

“Better than The Vagina Monologues…way, way better!” – Paul Wales, Boston, Mass

“I want men to see this. I want men to know what we feel.” – Carolyn Ayers, Los Angeles, CA

“It was hilarious. It was moving. It was sexy. It was informative. I want my husband to see this movie!” – Anika Marinelli, Los Angeles, CA

“Sex is a big important part of my life. I think it’s an important part of a lot of people’s lives – and those people are going to want to see this movie.” – Cheryl Flenoy, San Diego CA

Among the Subjects Covered in ‘The O Tapes’ is

Female Ejaculation:

“Yes, I do ejaculate. That’s a strange feeling like you’re going to pee, but it’s not urine. It’s like water.” – Virginia, 32 yrs.

The Big O (Orgasm):

“What does an orgasm feel like?… It’s starts with a tingling way down in my cootchie…” – Diane, 36 years

Sexual Dysfunction:

“It’s embarrassing to say, but I was 28 before I had my first orgasm.” – Jeanne, 36 yrs.

The Clitoris:

“The clitoris is the temple. It’s the pocket of your whole sexuality. That holds the key to making me smile.” – Cheryl, 30yrs.

Oral Sex:

“I love oral sex when it’s done right. And ‘compounded’ oral sex, using the fingers and the mouth…that’s amazing!” – Carol, 37yrs.

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By Hugh Benson

Even if your woman denies it, she can have an ejaculating orgasm. In fact, every singe woman on this planet is capable of having this kind of an orgasm. The reason why more women aren’t experiencing them is because women are afraid. Women are worried that if they do let go and if they do squirt, that it is actually going to be something else. The thing with female ejaculation that men need to understand is that it actually feels very similar to urination for women. Women feel that sensation coming on and they stop it immediately, regardless if it goes away and leads to extreme pleasure.

In order to make a woman squirt, you need to get your woman in a different frame of mind and you also need to learn some female ejaculation tips and techniques that will assist you in giving her a very wet and wild orgasm. It’s time that you did this for your woman tonight.

Once again, the biggest obstacle to overcome in regards to giving your woman this kind of orgasm is to make her want it. No matter how many techniques you learn to get her to squirt, if she doesn’t let go then there is no hope for you. You need to make her want it and you can do this by talking with her. Having a very open communication makes her feel more comfortable and safe. Reassure her that you will still find her attractive no matter what happens after she crosses the point of no return.

When it comes down to the physical stimulation of her, you want to focus on the g-spot the most. Even though clitoral stimulation is a good idea to get her aroused and wet, if you are expecting her to squirt tonight, then you must stimulate the g-spot. However, you shouldn’t be intimated because it is not that difficult. You can easily give a woman pleasure and you don’t have to worry about whether or not you are doing a good job. With the g-spot, you have so much room for error and even then, you are still giving her pleasure. Unlike the clitoris, you can be a little rough with her here so that means you don’t have to be as careful. Of course, you still want to take your time but you can pick up the pace a little and you can put a bit more pressure on her. Use your fingers to be a little rougher with her and guaranteed this will push her over the edge.

You want to be able to make your girl squirt and shake with pleasure. You want to give her an orgasm that is out of this world. Learn more from this helpful site on how you can make her squirt today!

You can become the best she has ever had and you can make that happen now. There is help so you can master female ejaculation and be the best.

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The G-Spot Orgasm – Tips to Make Any Woman Experience Female Ejaculation

September 20, 2011

ShareBy Hugh Benson If you are going to make a woman experience female ejaculation, then you need to be able to master the art of stimulating her g-spot. This is the only way that you are going to be able to make this happen. A woman cannot have an ejaculating orgasm from clitoral stimulation so [...]

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How To Find The G Spot – Here Is A Stunningly Easy Technique You Can’t Afford To Miss

September 20, 2011

ShareBy Rahul Talwar The g spot is a mystery for most men who have to rattle their brains or fingers to first locate it and then stimulate it. Read More The g spot is a mystery for most men who have to rattle their brains or fingers to first locate it and then stimulate it. The [...]

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Polyamory and Women’s Orgasms

September 20, 2011

Shareby Deborah Anapol Are Women Naturally Monogamous? Published on May 26, 2010 in Psychology Today Scientists once claimed that female orgasm was unique to humans and explained that its function was to “sustain the long-term pair bond at the heart of the nuclear family” according Psychology Today blogger and author Christopher Ryan. This theory is problematic [...]

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The problem is that the medical profession is still resistant to the whole concept of a “g spot” and female ejaculation.

November 5, 2010

Shareby Gary Schubach Ed.D.,A.C.S As one of the leading experts in the world on the subject of the so-called “G Spot” and Female ejaculation, I take exception by to two statements by Tallulah Sulis in a September 13, 2010, interview for the National Sexuality Resource Center. The two areas where I had the most problems were her [...]

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In Defense of The G-Spot: Yes, Virginia, It Does Exist!

May 1, 2010

Share by Dr. Susan Block Just Under the Roof of the Vaginal Cave Is The G-Spot I’m not surprised when politicians, religious leaders, military chiefs, mafia bosses, corporate CEOs or media pundits make ignorant, misleading statements with great and somber certainty. But when people who call themselves “scientists” spout toxic stupidities with similar conviction, it [...]

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