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Review of The Tantric Guide to Sexual Potency

by DoctorG on March 11, 2013

tantric sexual potency 188x300 Review of The Tantric Guide to Sexual PotencyI first saw the film, The Tantric Guide to Sexual Potency, in the mid-90s when I was a graduate student and I immediately dubbed it “porn stars tantra.”  Its initial distribution was through conventional adult film distributors and it faded from view fairly quickly.  I remember being impressed with how well the porn legends, Kay Parker, Mike Horner, Sharon Kane, and Jon Dough, expressed the concepts of Tantra in a way that was both understandable and entertaining to a mainstream audience.

This film is so different from anything you are likely to have seen in Adult Films before that it almost defies classification.  When most of us think of Tantra, the Asian spiritual discipline of the senses and sensuality, one thing that probably doesn’t come to mind is sexual intercourse vigorously pursued to orgasm.  It’s not that Tantra has anything against intercourse.  It’s just that there is so much more to Tantra.

This DVD could be considered a good introduction to the usefulness of Hatha Yoga and Tantra practices, while at the same time being a tantalizing erotic film, with several scenes of couples having intercourse, but with a difference.  The film begins and ends with some juicy sex scenes, looking pretty much like what most people do, except that both participants kept their eyes open and stayed present with each other.

Then there is a rather abrupt transition to a non-sexual introduction to Hatha Yoga, the Yoga of positions and breathing.  Kay Parker’s message at this point is that Hatha Yoga is the key to continued sexual potency, which is pretty hard to argue with.  After demonstrating and explaining several positions, we are shown how that exercise keeps us strong enough and supple enough to permit us to assume some challenging positions with pleasure and without straining anything.  She also makes the well-deserved point that Hatha Yoga can support Tantra practice, since Tantra is about energy and prolonging the sex act.  Regular practice of Yoga positions can help you build up your strength and stamina, as well as your ability to feel more.

After the very straight Hatha Yoga segment, there is another rather abrupt transition to a well-written essay on the essentials of Tantra , during which we have more intercourse sequences, most of which go to orgasm.  Kay Parker continues to narrate during these scenes, and you almost have to ignore what’s happening on the screen to appreciate what she is saying.

What’s great about this DVD is that it can give you some useful practices to add to your sex life, like Hatha Yoga and some basic Tantra positions, and the material is delivered in a way that certainly gets your attention, and provides some nice turn-on at the same time.  You might want to watch it twice, first to be tantalized, and the second time to be educated.  The Tantric Guide to Sexual Potency can be purchased through our Doctor G’s Adult Store.

 

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How Many Different Kinds of Female Orgasm?

by DoctorG on June 28, 2012

Another article on whether a vaginal orgasm is possible.  In a recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine (see abstract below), six scientists with different experimental evidence debated the existence of the vaginally activated orgasm (VAO).  They seemed to agree that there is substantial evidence that a vaginally activated orgasm is possible and yet their ultimate conclusion was only that, “The assumption that women may experience only the clitoral, external orgasm is not based on the best available scientific evidence.

The question of the nature of female orgasm continues to be of major interest to both the public and to scientist.  Despite the fact that many sexologists now accept at least clitoral, vaginal and “blended” orgasms, the scientific paradigm is still that there is only a clitoral orgasm. This study is more evidence that this paradigm needs to be changed.I still agree with Grafenberg that, “Innumerable erotogenic spots are distributed all over the body, from where sexual satisfaction can be elicited; these are so many that we can almost say that there is no part of the female body which does not give sexual response, the partner has only to find the erotogenic zones.” – Gary Schubach, Ed.D.

Female orgasm(s): one, two, several.

Source

Course of Endocrinology and Medical Sexology, Department of Experimental Medicine, University of L’Aquila, Italy. emmanuele.jannini@univaq.it

Abstract

INTRODUCTION:

There is general agreement that it is possible to have an orgasm thru the direct simulation of the external clitoris. In contrast, the possibility of achieving climax during penetration has been controversial.

METHODS:

Six scientists with different experimental evidence debate the existence of the vaginally activated orgasm (VAO).

MAIN OUTCOME MEASURE:

To give reader of The Journal of Sexual Medicine sufficient data to form her/his own opinion on an important topic of female sexuality.

RESULTS:

Expert #1, the Controversy’s section Editor, together with Expert #2, reviewed data from the literature demonstrating the anatomical possibility for the VAO. Expert #3 presents validating women’s reports of pleasurable sexual responses and adaptive significance of the VAO. Echographic dynamic evidence induced Expert # 4 to describe one single orgasm, obtained from stimulation of either the external or internal clitoris, during penetration. Expert #5 reviewed his elegant experiments showing the uniquely different sensory responses to clitoral, vaginal, and cervical stimulation. Finally, the last Expert presented findings on the psychological scenario behind VAO.

CONCLUSION:

The assumption that women may experience only the clitoral, external orgasm is not based on the best available scientific evidence.

© 2012 International Society for Sexual Medicine.

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15 Crazy Things About Vaginas

by DoctorG on March 23, 2012

Do you know these 15 crazy facts about vaginas? They come from the book, What’s Up Down There?: Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend [WHATS UP DOWN THERE] [Paperback] 15 Crazy Things About Vaginas. By Lissa Rankin, M.D….

1. Pubic hair is not just a biological accident that forces us to the waxing salon. It serves three critical functions. First, it protects the delicate vagina. Second, it serves as a reproductive billboard to alert potential mates that you are biologically (if not emotionally) prepared to procreate. And last, it’s a pheromone carpet and traps the scents that lead potential mates to the promised land. So you might think twice before you shave it all off. It’s there for a reason. Embrace it.

2. There are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris, dedicated exclusively to female pleasure. The penis only has 4000. Who says God didn’t take care of us girls?

3. The average vagina is 3-4 inches long, but fear not if your guy is hung like a horse. The vagina can expand by 200% when sexually aroused, kind of like a balloon. Remember, the vagina was made to birth babies, so it’s exceedingly elastic. If you have pain when getting it on with someone large, you can use dilators to help stretch the vagina so you can accommodate the whole package.

4. The vagina doesn’t connect to the lung. While the vagina can expand, it’s not an open conduit to the abdominal cavity. While microscopic sperm can swim through a tiny hole in the cervix, a tampon simply won’t fit. So if you lose something in there, don’t worry. Reach in all the way and pull it out. Do not — I repeat, do not — go hunting for whatever you’ve lost with a pair of pliers. Think of your vagina as being like a sock. If you lose a banana in a sock…it stays in the sock.

5. Yes, it’s true — your vagina can fall out. Not to belabor the sock metaphor, but it can turn inside out just like a worn out sweat sock and hang between your legs as you get older. But don’t fret; this condition — called pelvic prolapse — can be fixed.

6. Vaginas have something in common with sharks. Both contain squalene, a substance that exists in both shark livers and natural vaginal lubricant. (Cue music: “She’s a maneater…”)

7 You can catch sexually transmitted diseases even if you use a condom. Sorry to break it to you, but the skin of the vulva can still touch infectious skin of the scrotum — and BAM! Warts. Herpes. Molluscum contagiosum. Pubic lice. So pick your partners carefully.

8. The average length of the labia minora is less than ¾ inch long (yes, someone got out a ruler and measured 2981 women). Only 1.8% of women have labia longer than 1 ½ inches. But remember, every vulva is different and special. Some lips hang down. Some are tucked up neatly inside. Some are long. Some are short. Some are even. Some aren’t. All are beautiful. You’re perfect just the way you are.

9. While hair on your head can live up to seven years, pubic hair has a life expectancy of about three weeks, which is why it only grows so long. So don’t worry if you opt not to groom your pubes — you won’t need to braid them any time soon.

10. The word “vagina” comes from the Latin root meaning “sheath for a sword,” which may explain why some women simply hate the word. So if you don’t like the word “vagina,” pick your own name for your girly parts. Just call it something and don’t be afraid to talk about it.

11. Only about 30% of women have orgasms from intercourse alone. The clitoris is where the action is. Most women who do orgasm during sex have figured out how to hit their sweet spot, either from positioning or from direct stimulation of the clitoris with fingers.

12. Increasing evidence suggests that the G spot feels good because it lies right over a deep part of the clitoris. Although experts describe the G spot as being inside the vagina on the anterior wall, just under the urethra, the crura of the clitoris actually runs right there. And a recent study demonstrated that vaginal orgasms may actually be deep clitoral orgasms. But who cares? An orgasm is an orgasm. Appreciate it, regardless of where it comes from.

13. Vaginal farts (some call them “queefs” or “varts”) happen to almost all women at one time or another, especially during sex or other forms of exercise. So don’t be embarrassed if your hooha lets out a toot. You’re perfectly normal.

14. Some women do ejaculate during orgasm, but you’re normal if you don’t. The controversial “female ejaculation” most likely represents two different phenomena. If it’s a small amount of milky fluid, it likely comes from the paraurethral glands inside the urethra. If it’s a cup, it’s probably pee. Many times, it may be a little bit of both. But don’t stress out about peeing on yourself. Put a towel under you and surrender to the experience.

15.Safe sex (or even just orgasm alone) is good for you. Benefits include lowering your risk of heart disease and stroke, reducing your risk of breast cancer, bolstering your immune system, helping you sleep, making you appear more youthful, improving your fitness, regulating menstrual cycles, relieving menstrual cramps, helping with chronic pain, reducing the risk of depression, lowering stress levels, and improving self esteem. So go at it, girlfriends!

 15 Crazy Things About Vaginas

 Abridged from: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/owning-pink/201104/15-crazy-things-about-vaginas

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Ten Secrets to Satisfying Sex for Men

by DoctorG on September 23, 2011

by Ed Fell

Whether single or coupled, or whatever your relationship path is, these tips will almost guarantee more satisfaction in your sex life.
  1. GROW UP To be a master lover, first become a masterful man. Work on yourself and don’t indulge in petty excuses or complaints. Live your life with purpose. If you don’t know what it is, find it, then live it with gusto. Live with integrity. Be a clear communicator. Learn to be vulnerable.
  2. BE ENTERTAINING One of the biggest complaints I hear from partners is that men are boring. Conversations are boring, lives are boring, dates are boring, and sex is boring. One of the keys to becoming interesting is to become interested and passionate about what you do. Get fed up with your own boring life and do something extraordinary. Create a life where you have something interesting to talk about. Nurture your own adventurous spirit both inside and outside the bedroom. Take courses, read great books, travel, do something outrageous that you’ve never done before.
  3. GROW SOME BALLS Get over your need for approval and affirmation from your partner. There are some things as a man you must do for himself. Men are attractive when they are confident; insecurity is destructive to relationships. Be confident in your touch, your words, and your actions.
  4. GET IN SHAPE Take care of your body. Exercise and eat well. This will add years to your life and your love life. It is a fallacy that men can’t be fully sexually active throughout their lifetime. Do you want to have strong erections through your 60s, 70s, 80s, and, yes, your 90s? Forget the Viagra and get to the gym. Your fitness is the most important factor in maintaining your libido and erections.
  5. LEARN Explore how to read your body and your partner’s. Mastering sex is a path of learning to run and exchange energy. This can be learned from good and ethical teachers and coaches. Don’t bother trying to learn from porn movies. They have almost no value when it comes to being a great lover. Tantra and Taoist practices have been around for thousands of years and offer exceptional tools for mastering and harnessing sexual energy. There is help for low libido, erectile dysfunctions, premature or early ejaculation, and more.
  6. PLAY What is about men that takes sex so seriously? Lighten up! Laugh, tickle, play, and make sex and intimacy fun. There is no ceiling to how much joy the body can experience. We limit our pleasure from our own self-imposed beliefs.
  7. BECOME EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT There are more emotions to master other than horniness, anger, and hunger. When your partner asks how you feel, take a moment to find the answer. Discover your rich inner world of feelings and learn to speak of them with emotional intelligence. An open heart is the biggest aphrodisiac. Don’t be embarrassed to seek the help of a coach or therapist.
  8. BE CURIOUS Express authentic desire to know your partner. Be curious about her life without trying to change or fix her. Hold space for his fears, successes, struggles, and even his challenges or criticisms of you. Do this without getting defensive. Remember: listening is twice as important as talking.
  9. PRESENCE Your greatest offering to your partner is presence. Lose the distractions of TV, sports, porn, and other bleeders of energy and really show up at full attention. Presence is a muscle that will get stronger with practice.
  10. APPRECIATION Court your lover, no matter how long you’ve been together. Compliment your partner. Appreciate your life and live with gratitude. Cherish each moment.

The truth about men is that we are more magnificent than we realize. For many of us, greatness lies dormant, waiting to be uncovered. Each of us holds wisdom, presence, authentic power, generosity, consciousness, passion, creativity, vulnerability, big love, and much, much more.

About Ed Fell

Ed Fell, M.S. lives and loves passionately on Maui. He is a psychotherapist and intimacy/sex/love coach for men, women, and couples. Ed is a Certified Leader and Leader Trainer with the Mankind Project International. He’s guided men, women and couples to their masterful selves for decades. His 30 day couples’ make-over takes intimates to inspiring levels of intimacy. E-visit him at LoversCodes.com or his eponymous website.

 

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The Eye-Opening “O Tapes”

September 20, 2011

by Gary Schubach, Ed.D. Imagine, if you will, a hard-hitting, no holds barred, in-your-face documentary on the most taboo subject in contemporary society. Now imagine, if you can, making that film so skillfully and so thoughtfully that the end product is a breathtakingly beautiful work of art, and you will have some idea of what […]

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How to Make a Woman Squirt – Female Ejaculation Tips and Techniques to Drive Her Wet and Wild

September 20, 2011

By Hugh Benson Even if your woman denies it, she can have an ejaculating orgasm. In fact, every singe woman on this planet is capable of having this kind of an orgasm. The reason why more women aren’t experiencing them is because women are afraid. Women are worried that if they do let go and […]

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The G-Spot Orgasm – Tips to Make Any Woman Experience Female Ejaculation

September 20, 2011

By Hugh Benson If you are going to make a woman experience female ejaculation, then you need to be able to master the art of stimulating her g-spot. This is the only way that you are going to be able to make this happen. A woman cannot have an ejaculating orgasm from clitoral stimulation so […]

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How To Find The G Spot – Here Is A Stunningly Easy Technique You Can’t Afford To Miss

September 20, 2011

By Rahul Talwar The g spot is a mystery for most men who have to rattle their brains or fingers to first locate it and then stimulate it. Read More The g spot is a mystery for most men who have to rattle their brains or fingers to first locate it and then stimulate it. The […]

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Polyamory and Women’s Orgasms

September 20, 2011

by Deborah Anapol Are Women Naturally Monogamous? Published on May 26, 2010 in Psychology Today Scientists once claimed that female orgasm was unique to humans and explained that its function was to “sustain the long-term pair bond at the heart of the nuclear family” according Psychology Today blogger and author Christopher Ryan. This theory is problematic […]

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The problem is that the medical profession is still resistant to the whole concept of a “g spot” and female ejaculation.

November 5, 2010

by Gary Schubach Ed.D.,A.C.S As one of the leading experts in the world on the subject of the so-called “G Spot” and Female ejaculation, I take exception by to two statements by Tallulah Sulis in a September 13, 2010, interview for the National Sexuality Resource Center. The two areas where I had the most problems were her […]

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In Defense of The G-Spot: Yes, Virginia, It Does Exist!

May 1, 2010

by Dr. Susan Block Just Under the Roof of the Vaginal Cave Is The G-Spot I’m not surprised when politicians, religious leaders, military chiefs, mafia bosses, corporate CEOs or media pundits make ignorant, misleading statements with great and somber certainty. But when people who call themselves “scientists” spout toxic stupidities with similar conviction, it is […]

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